The radical relationship-based orientation of all my subjects caught me by surprise. As someone entering the height of my career, I expend much more energy on work than on relationships. And when I imagine my future, I envision what I will have accomplished rather than the quality of my interactions with those who are most important to me. These 90-something-year-olds emphasize the opposite when they look back on their lives. Their joys and regrets have nothing to do with their careers, but with their parents, children, spouses, and friends. Put simply, when I asked one person, “Do you wish you accomplished more?” He responded, “No, I wished I loved more.”

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"Love
Deep down, you are a kind and gentle soul who craves love. You have a strong subconscious need to give love to others and receive love. Although you may sometimes appear strong, stoic or self-sufficient on the outside, that is only hiding your deeply compassionate heart and desire to unite others.

Not everything buried in the subconscious is dark or negative. Love is an example of a positive force that is too often suppressed because of how overwhelming and overpowering (and therefore intimidating) it can be. So ask yourself, in what ways are you withholding love or avoiding receiving it from others? And most importantly, why?

Here is another question: what insecurities or mistaken beliefs are causing you to repress the energy of love?

Your soul is a force of nature that longs to spread love. Find ways of generating more self-compassion in your life, and you will find yourself feeling more and more at peace."

-the loner wolf (subconscious test)

"Also, I got older (and gayer), I found myself really rejecting the binary of good and evil that seemed to be so key to the Force mythology that we are taught. Even if we look at the dualism that it is based around, like the concept of Yin and Yang, it is not that these two forces are in conflict constantly, but that they are “complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another.” Basically you need both.

In the old Legends, there were also examples of Sith and Jedi working together. For example, Darth Vectivus, known as the Sith Lord who did no evil. He simply learned and had enough balance and self-control within himself to remained balance while being a Sith. That is interesting."

source: themarysue

same tarot spread ii

The Lovers

What we call love is really a whole spectrum of relating, reaching from the earth to the sky. At the most earthy level, love is sexual attraction. Many of us remain stuck there, because our conditioning has burdened our sexuality with all kinds of expectations and repressions. Actually the biggest problem with sexual love is that it never lasts. Only if we accept this fact can we then really celebrate it for what it is--welcome its happening, and say good-bye with gratitude when it's not.
Then as we mature, we can begin to experience the love that exists beyond sexuality and honors the unique individuality of the other. We begin to understand that our partner often functions as a mirror, reflecting unseen aspects of our deeper self and supporting us to become whole. This love is based in freedom, not expectation or need. Its wings take us higher and higher towards the universal love that experiences all as one.

Osho Zen, Zest, Zip, Zap and Zing

These three things are to be taken note of: the lowest love is sex--it is physical--and the highest refinement of love is compassion. Sex is below love, compassion is above love; love is exactly in the middle.
Very few people know what love is. Ninety-nine percent of people, unfortunately, think sexuality is love--it is not. Sexuality is very animal; it certainly has the potential of growing into love, but it is not actual love, only a potential....
If you become aware and alert, meditative, then sex can be transformed into love. And if your meditativeness becomes total, absolute, love can be transformed into compassion. Sex is the seed, love is the flower, compassion is the fragrance.
Buddha has defined compassion as 'love plus meditation'. When your love is not just a desire for the other, when your love is not only a need, when your love is a sharing, when your love is not that of a beggar but an emperor, when your love is not asking for something in return but is ready only to give--to give for the sheer joy of giving--then add meditation to it and the pure fragrance is released.
That is compassion; compassion is the highest phenomenon.

a tarot spread

The Zen master in this card has harnessed the energy of fire and is able to use it for creation rather than destruction. He invites us to recognize and participate with him in the understanding that belongs to those who have mastered the fires of passion, without repressing them or allowing them to get destructive and out of balance. He is so integrated that there is no longer any difference between who he is inside and who he is in the world outside. He offers this gift of understanding and integration to all those who come to him, the gift of creative light that comes from the center of his being.

The King of Fire tells us that anything that we undertake now, with the understanding that comes from maturity, will bring enrichment to our own lives and to the lives of others. Using whatever skills you have, whatever you have learned from your own life experience, it is time to express yourself.

Osho Ah, This!

There are two types of creators in the world. One type of creator works with objects - a poet, a painter, they work with objects, they create things. The other type of creator, the mystic, creates himself. He doesn't work with objects, he works with the subject; he works on himself, his own being. And he is the real creator, the real poet, because he makes himself into a masterpiece.
You are carrying a masterpiece hidden within you, but you are standing in the way. Just move aside, then the masterpiece will be revealed. Everyone is a masterpiece, because God never gives birth to anything less than that. Everyone carries that masterpiece hidden for many lives, no knowing who they are and just trying on the surface to become someone.
Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it. God himself has created you; you cannot be improved.

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http://theastrologyplacemembership.com/2010/01/sun-in-12th-house/

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“En general, favorece todo lo que se relaciona con "dar" o "servir" a sus semejantes, pero bloquea o dificulta el "recibir". Las personas con el Sol en la casa XII desarrollan una profunda vida interior pero también tienen muchas inhibiciones anímicas. Se trata de una casa de renuncia y evolución espiritual, pero si sus nativos se obstinan en afirmar su voluntad y luchar por sus metas egoístas, entonces se verán amenazados por toda clase de adversidades e infortunios: enemigos poderosos que actuarán de forma oculta, terribles pruebas, mala salud, enfermedades crónicas o paralizantes, peligro de reclusión, encarcelamiento o exilio. Cuando el Sol está afligido, todas estas cosas amenazan al nativo.”

-blog de segundo ruiz
“las personas que nacen con el Sol en la casa 12 son personas a las que les cuesta mostrarse tal y como son realmente.

Las personas que nacen con el Sol en la casa 12 son personas enigmáticas, profundas y a veces sombrías, dependiendo del estaddo cósmico del Sol.

Ellos vienen a disolver su ego, a entregarse a los demás sin reservas ni a cambio de nada.

Tanto es así que  normalmente a lo largo de su vida tienden a sufrir desilusiones en el amor. La casa 12 es una casa de entrega total.

No es raro ver esta posición en mapas de monjas de clausura, o personas que están acometidas en algún lugar, como si estuviesen encarcelados.

Normalmente son personas que tienden a ser tranquilos, retraídos al principio de conocerlos y que se reservan por miedo a ser dañados.

Estas personas deben de cuidar mucho este aspecto de su vida. Corren el riesgo de volverse demasiado solitarios y aislarse del resto de los mortales, algo que no es sano para ellos.

A través del servicio a los demás encontrarán gran satisfacción, por eso  las obras humanitarias y el servicio desinteresado les resultará gratificante.”
-astrologia.wiki

h

“Furthermore, psychology and spirituality mirror what we all possess within: a mind and soul (or spirit). Why then should they be separate? What benefit is it to keep these two innate aspects of us apart?”

source: lonerwolf (“spiritual psychology: why meditation isn’t enough”)

h

“you won’t find what you’re looking for until you see it in yourself”

I'm tired of statements
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n

no esperes a la gente

ocupa tu tiempo no con esperanza o deseo de hacer algo, sino con algo que llene ese lugar diáfano 

i we wii

i’m understanding something as of lately

i’m probably wrong or rather, just looking at it from my own perspective

but i think

i think that being alive and being in an honest relationship or rather a meaningful one implies caring about the other as much as you care about yourself

perhaps even more

with its dangers and all

i dont know

you need to truly be 

i think what i want to say is that in order for you to grow, you need to outgrow yourself

get out of yourself 

and into another

just a thought